DO YOU LISTEN?

DO YOU LISTEN?

~Seyiwryte

 

I have a similar story, that building is completely useless. I remembered, 11 years ago I was there, I lived there and it was like that. You mean nothing has changed? Omotola spoke with so much energy.

Her friend, Lade kept looking at her. Lade had earlier requested to see Omotola to discuss what was going on at the building.

Omotola wouldn't even allow  Lade speak. She kept talking and talking. Frustrated and more confused, Lade said "Omotola, that's enough, I will sort myself, you can leave now"

"I invited you here to share my problems and seek solutions but you have been talking about yourself and your past experiences, comparing my situation with yours. Omotola, learn to listen to people, you don't have to compare your story with theirs. I called you here to listen and not bore me with stories," Lade continued.

Ooooh! My friend, I'm sorry, I was carried away and I didn't even realise I have been the only one speaking all these while, Omotola said.

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You are sometimes like Omotola. When people come to you, sharing their problems and thoughts, you take charge of the conversation, you don't even allow them speak.

You don't have to compare your situation with theirs at that moment, they need someone to listen to them, be that person. Don't bore them with your own stories.

There are times that we get carried away and begin to share our stories when we ought to listen to other people's stories.

Yes, I know you have a similar story and I know you want to encourage them but at least, pay attention to what they have to say before you speak and dominate the conversation.

So many persons, have lost important information, ideas and values because they failed to listen. How well do you listen?

There is so much wisdom in listening. You will not only understand what the speaker is saying, you will be able to ponder on what is being said and give intelligent answers and solutions.

In a world where everyone wants to speak, we need more listeners. Will you be one?

~Seyiwryte 

Not just listeners but genuine listeners, people who will listen and act. People ready to listen and make the most use of what has been said.

Learn to pay attention to the people you are speaking with. Look at their faces and eyes, are they still interested in the conversation? Are they still comfortable? Are you sure you are not forcing them to stay? Listen to them and observe their body gestures.

Talk less, listen more. This will help and guide you.

I'm not done. I know what you are thinking about. What about people who naturally speak too much? I know right but it can be controlled.

I'm aware humans are different but we can always make amendments and adjustments.

If you must win the heart of people, you need to be a good listener.

If you really care about others and want to help them, you must be ready to listen. 

Pay attention to details when people talk to you. Don't be too quick to interrupt them.

There is a solution to that problem but you haven't been listening well.

Listen!

Have you ever spoken to someone and felt like it was a complete waste of time because instead of listening to you, they kept talking. How did you feel?

Share your experiences in the comment section.

~Seyiwryte